Anxiety Spiral

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That joke was kind of mean. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


If I bring this up, I'm going to make him feel bad. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK 


He's going to think I'm trying to change him. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


We don't have similar senses of humor. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


That's another thing we don't have in common. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


If we don't have anything in common, this relationship isn't going to last. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


He's not going to like me anymore. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


He's going to break up with me. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


I'm going to have another failed relationship. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK


I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. It's not a big deal, everything is going to be OK

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